Mz DeeVa's Epic Response To Black Men Who Complain About Black Women Who Wear Weave

(Mz DeeVa, February 19, 2017) Too often Black men contribute to hateful rhetoric against Black women. By voicing opinions many deem to be harmless, Black men set the tone for more attacks against Black women; as if over decades Black women have not suffered enough.

Always armed with the right words for any debate defending women, I took a stand once again to defend our beautiful culture of Black women: Guy: "Don't assume weave makes you all look cute, because it doesn't." Mz DeeVa: "To hate weave is to hate self. Why? (Why is there so much hatred in tone?) Weave has not hurt you, so the hate speech has to come from within." Other guy: How do you know weave hasn't hurt a particular individual? Mz DeeVa: "Self-hatred is always evident in the tone of malice on a subject." 1st Guy: "Lil girls cant enjoy they natural looks cause they see you old heads not embracing it...an our lil ladies also thinks weave makes them cute to...while DESTROYING they own hair!! Blk women dont THINK about the lil girls who WATCH they every move...yall just go through life reckless an then complain about these lil girls an how they act...but they learning the mess from yall ass!!" 2nd guy: "... I never said weave hurt me. I hate it because it sends the wrong message not only to other races but to our own Young Queens. Be proud of your heritage because it is unrivaled. We are different for a reason.. Our history wasnt hidden because we are inferior... As for as self hate, thats not even up for discussion...." Mz DeeVa: "Two men, who are unaware of the multiple reasons women love to wear weave, are deciding that weave wearing women do not embrace their culture? Not on one day, am I less Black due to my love of weave! Weave intimidates men who are shallow. Shallow men want to see you from the outside, displayed with one look, to feed their need to control you. Freedom lies within the choice to wear weave. And contrary to dense male belief, weave is NOT only worn by Black women! Hair is like a woman's p--sy and womb, whatever choice she makes for it, is for her to say, not any of the male species. If a woman is not wearing weave, that is a choice that she has made. If a woman wears weave, that is a choice that she makes. If a woman says NO to sex, that is her right, and a choice that she makes!! Are we clear? Is Narcissism 101 class ready to dismiss now?" *mic drops, men quietly exit the room... Follow on Twitter/IG/Facebook: @mzDeeVa4you

What a Genuine Man Looks Like

Make sure you know what a #GenuineMan looks like ladies, #askDeeVa: 1. A genuine man is one who will show you how he feels about you, more than he tells you. Although he will take time to tell you often. 2. A genuine man follows through on promises, big and little ones, and is truly apologetic if he fails to fulfill one due to something out of his control. 3. A genuine man is concerned about your well being each and every day, not just smooth talking after intimate moments. 4. A genuine man loves you unconditionally, accepting your flaws and will not tell you to be more like: sister, Mom, co-worker, celebrity, etc. 5. When a Genuine Man is in your life, you never doubt, you feel secure in your place in his life, he is who he says that he is. He shows you with actions, not words. My short thoughts on a genuine man. Follow @mzDeeVa4you (Twitter, IG, FB) #AuthorDeeS #mzDeeVa #iLastRadio

5 Signs That You are Dealing with a Broken Man: Expect me to go into more detail as we prepare for Tuesday night's hot topic! For now, these are my quick, 5 signs that guarantee, that you are dealing with a broken man. No worries, even with, there is hope! 1. He avoids commitment. 2. He talks about his ex, women who hurt him, way too much. 3. He is not satisfied with his current career choice, or lacks having one! 4. His ex has a toddler or 2, yet he still wants YOU! 5. He uses foul language to describe women or actions they do, that he disapproves of. And hey, why not a bonus from DeeVa: 6. He clearly lacks a smidgen of a prayer/spiritual life!. #askDeeVa Tune in, Tuesday nights, iLast Radio: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/iLastRadio Tweet me, Facebook or IG me: @MzDeeVa4you

Our Life You Want Weekend with Oprah Happens in 2 more Days!

It is finally here! What we are calling the healing and discovery weekend, in just 2 more days, my good friend and Gold Star sister, Yassel Davila-Wallace and I will walk this journey as we look forward to all Oprah and her Trailblazers will do for us during 'The Life You Want Tour-Houston' weekend. Yassel and I met through the tragic loss of our husbands, our soldiers, yet our story had so much more in store for us. An unbreakable bond, I feel blessed and honored to share through sisterhood this much anticipated weekend!! Stay tuned as we share this journey from the Greater Fort Hood area to Houston as we spend the weekend with one of the world's most inspirational Queens!!

Was Ferguson Officer Darren Wilson a Criminal Based on Statistics?

(#Ferguson Discussion) As the creepy images cross our screens, of the evil-eyed Officer who shot and killed unarmed teen Mike Brown, we cannot help but cringe and wonder what Michael Brown was up against in those last few moments. As media often does with our Black youth in the story, let us take a look at facts that are unfolding about Wilson's prior years before this said attempt to arrest Mike Brown that ended in a complete worldwide tragedy. Are you aware that Darren was a *statistic? -Parents split after only 4 years of marriage -Mother was a criminal with a record of committed crimes -Fits profile of what they say about one- parent-home-youth's future years -His own wife just recently divorced him and left with their only child -Numerous reports from citizens in Ferguson of this said 'calm guy' are unfolding, with reports saying he often addressed them yelling and with harsh explicits like 'shut the F*** up!' (*from media stories on the officer) Was Darren some good-guy cop that is now being portrayed in a bad light? You will only assume that if you are pausing at all he presents from the outside: White skin, beady eyes in a police uniform. From what lies within him perspective, his stats and life growing up may possibly indicate undiagnosed violent behavior that he unleashed on the residents in the streets of Ferguson, Missouri, only to finally hit the breaking point that would end the life of the almost college student who will now only shine bright after his death via the legacy this historical moment will leave behind. How many Darren Wilson's do we have in police uniforms across our nation? How many psychological profiles are in place on a constant basis, with available treatment, so that our police force operates as it should...on the RIGHT side of the law? My thoughts, Dee 'mz DeeVa' Shields Written 6:40 am, August 21, 2014

Meaningless Sex equals a Season of Celibacy

A single woman engaging in sex without commitment, all year round, with the same partner or lord knows with multiple partners, should take a breather from sex at some point in time! I like to call it the"Season of Celibacy".Taking time to reflect on why you and this other person are having sex on a long term basis, yet have not decided to take it to another level...a step towards a real commitment. As much as some men...and some women... will argue me down that sex year in and year out without a commitment is NOT meaningless, truth be told ladies and gents, it is just that:MEANINGLESS SEX. GREAT for while it lasts, yet in the end, he chooses someone else or you choose someone else and now you have both ABUSED a part ofGOD's GREATEST GIFT to mankind: SEX! Meaningless sex, which is ALSO Great SEX at the same time but turns around into a full circle and bringing you back to the moment when you did not know him...has NO PURPOSE! Intimacy is NOT a recreational sport and society needs to STOP treating it like it is! Intimacy = IN TO ME YOU SEE! Intimacy says, 'here in this world of caressing, kissing and loving, I am opening up a door that goes deep and near to my soul'...how can you KEEP giving that 'special' someone a GIFT as expensive as that sounds without setting some standards towards your own self worth. AND...guess what, if you decide to have aSeason of Celibacy you do not have to BREAK up if you are in a great relationship that is simply facing 'fear to commit' from one of you...feel free to keep seeing the person, you will just have to get CREATIVE if you have been engaging in SEX already, and prepare for the struggle to do WITHOUT as he/she respects your decision to hold off. I say you do not have to break up to take aSeason of Celibacy because it is not a mandatory action in order to get your OWN mind clear as to why you are engaging in a act reserved for TRUE LOVE and ROMANCE. The only reason a break up may come is if the other person has a SERIOUS problem with the fact that you want to hold off from having sex for a while...if he/she loves you, he will NOT single ladies, she will NOT single men, have a problem with respecting your decison! Start with doing the research on the word Celibacy alone, and then, activate your own inner common sense...decide if taking a break fromMEANINGLESS sexis for you...do not forget to TELL your partner if you make this decision while in a relationship!  COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE... And then just do it!! Take a season to reflect. When and if you return back to having sex, be sure you are aware of what actually works FOR YOU!! ~Mz DeeVa~ Author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' and relelationship guide 'So Your Hearts Been Broken', both available on Amazon.comin paperback or on KINDLE or NOOK. Visit the Facebook fan page for weekly discounts on autographed pre-purchase copies http://www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you ; Contact DeAnna 'MzDeeVa' Shields Email: sayitwithdeetv@gmail.com Twitter: @MzDeeVa4you

Getting Along with Those Who Behave Like the Old You

Okay, you have heard it often, "Birds of a feather, flock together." So how often do you apply that saying in your own life? Over the years we outgrow certain behaviors and ways of life. For fear of losing those we have known for a long time, we continue to be around those old ways and lifestyles. As we are growing and maturing into the new way of life, it is important that we take a long hard look at people in our lives who are failing to make that transition with us. If you are not careful in your new lifestyle growth, the bad behaviors of life long friends will begin to creep back up and have you acting like your old, negative, self in no time. You do not have to make a dramatic, negative exit in order to move away from those who exhibit ways you no longer find interesting. Just simply make it clear that your old way of thinking, reacting and behaving, is a part of your past. And for the really mature, you already know that this can be "said", without you having to say very much at all. Refuse invites to hang out in environments that you have outgrown. As well as set clear rules for house visitors on what and who they bring to your home. As you move forward on your journey of change, seek out friendships with individuals who will mentor you towards a better way of living. Be encouraging to those who have yet to change. Just like it happened for you, the realization will hit one day and hopefully your new found positive energy will assist in their transition as well.